Take this time in your life to just rest and be with Christ.
Become HIS perfect girl! Singleness is not some example of purgatory that we have to go through while we wait for that guy to come along. It is a beautiful gift to do things that you can’t do once you are married. Many women who are unhappy with being single later discover they are unsatisfied with being married because they didn’t do all the things they wanted to do while being single. Rejoice that God has placed you in this place, in this time, with this obstacle facing you. Whatever it is, He is preparing you for a magnificent future! We have such a sense of entitlement in our hearts. We believe we deserve a good man, which we do, but remember, a spouse is a gift from God. Do we deserve gifts? No. They are given to us out of His mercy and love for us. We need to switch our thoughts from ‘I’m a good Catholic woman. I go to Mass. I pray. I’m pursuing Christ! Why hasn’t this right man come into my life yet?’ to ‘Jesus, I desire You. I love You. If You decide to not bring a man into my life, then that is okay because You are enough for me.’ In the end, He is all you need. Be completely satisfied in Him.
So stay off the roller coaster
– Stop using your brothers to get emotional highs. Pray your Rosary to ask your Holy Mother for her intercession. She is the most beautiful woman who understood that God was the only man allowed in her deepest, most sacred chamber of her heart. When you do find yourself day dreaming about that guy or you are tempted to check out his Facebook, pray a Hail Mary. With our culture today, I know I have said it before, we are bombarded with images of what love is supposed to look like. That is NOT real love! Real love is based on sacrifice and selfless giving up of oneself for the good of the other. Dr Ted Sri said it best when he said, “Real love in marriage is not sitting there staring each other in the eyes saying, ‘Honey remember the time when we did this and this? Oh how I love you!’ It is the nitty-gritty life that doesn’t stop moving, and it’s the ‘Honey, I’m cleaning up vomit over here, could you change the baby’s diaper? Oh shoot and little Johnny had a runny nose!’ Real love is not the Titanic!” Real love is two people coming together for the good of another. If you don’t practice that now, how can you begin to understand it when you are married?
Begin to think of your brothers with a pure mind; with real love – the love of Christ.
Eric J. Keroack, M.D., FACOG and Dr. John R. Diggs Jr., M.D., “Bonding Imperative,” A Special Report from the Abstinence Medical Council.
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